"We still have admissions committees that judge people by IQ
measures and not by practical literacy.
"We still have academic fields that
often treat human beings as rational utility-maximizing individuals.
"Modern
society has created a giant apparatus for the cultivation of the hard skills,
while failing to develop the moral and emotional faculties down below.
"Children
are coached on how to jump through a thousand scholastic hoops.
"Yet by far the
most important decisions they will make are about whom to marry and whom to
befriend, what to love and what to despise, and how to control impulses.
"On
these matters, they are almost entirely on their own.
"We are good at talking
about material incentives, but bad about talking about emotions and intuitions.
"We are good at teaching technical skills, but when it comes to the most
important things, like character, we have almost nothing to say."
-David Brooks, The Social Animal
It used to be that grandparents, aunts and uncles, and other adult role
models in the community could fix these problems, but we've taken away that
role from them.